Thursday, September 15, 2011

Welcome Back Josh


Regular readers to my blog will know what a tough year one of my sons has been having. Here's a reader's digest version - He broke up with his girlfriend of 3 years April '10. He had thought they'd be together forever but unfortunately she didn't think the same way and after totally destroying his self-esteem she went on her merry way. (A quick side-note - it's much better to just break things off cleanly than to hang on for months trying not to hurt the other's feelings but making them believe that if they IMPROVE themselves you'll be together forever.)

It was the last year of uni and things were pretty tough study-wise and having this happen on top almost destroyed him. He went to a very dark place and needed professional help to keep on top. BUT he made it through his final year and graduated with second class honours, ran a half marathon with me, went on a trip to Thailand to celebrate his graduation and got a job in his chosen field. He couldn't have done this without being on anti-depressants but there were some down-sides to the meds. He wasn't able to push himself the way he normally could and he made some impulsive decisions at times. And he still struggled with his self-esteem, especially when it came to starting his new job.

But things have been changing in the last month. Josh decided he was strong enough to do it on his own. He's been at his job for about 4 months and has settled in quite well so he went off the anti-depressants about 3 weeks ago. And even though I was worried that it may be too soon, Josh was absolutely right. He is strong enough to do it under his own steam. He is doing brilliantly - he's happier, he's focused, HE'S SINGING AROUND THE HOUSE! I've got my Josh back - not the shell who's been living here for the last year - the real Josh.

He's even taken up running. He's getting home from work and taking himself out for some long runs and that's just fantastic. His asthma is much more under control and those natural endorphins ... well, who needs prescribed meds when you can produce your own?

And as for me - his worry-wart mother - my cortisol levels have gone way down. I no longer dread his texts and I just know right deep down that he's turned a corner.

I'm smiling!

12 comments:

  1. Fabulous, what great news for you both. I bet the running has been a big help to him too. Long may his happiness continue!

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  2. I was clinically depressed once and I think it is great that your son has recovered! (I did too) I use running, a specific diet and meditation to stay balanced. I am really happy that he has you and that he decided to start running!

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  3. Man that's so awesome! Truly, there is nothing better than when you see one of children come of a tough time ... it's heart breaking when they're there, but such a time for rejoicing when they are on their way back! Awesome!

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  4. Oh what a relief that must be for all of you. I'm so glad things have turned around!

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  5. Sorry he had to go thru all that so young - but happy to hear things are looking up again! And yes, running is a natural antidepressant!

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  6. He will be stronger for the experience, I am sure though it must have been very, very hard on him and you too.
    I bet running will help him big time. I know it is helping me on my dark days.
    I am glad to see things are working out. You are quite a mom, you know?

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  7. That's great to hear about the strenght of your son. Of course, running may help him! Anyway, I really think that you're a great mother, Char!

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  8. When our children hurt we hurt deeply. This sounds great.

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  9. What a tough year. Very hard for a mother to witness for sure. I'm so glad things are looking up!

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  10. That is fantastic news!!! He pulled through this admirably and will go on to be stronger for it. Go Josh!!!

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  11. Fantastic news.
    I am sure that you made a lot to help him to recover, you are a wonderful mom.
    You, your family and running are the best cure.
    Best wishes to Josh.

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  12. Aww, this brings tears to my eyes. Loved reading this and hearing that your sweet boy (now man) is doing so well. :)

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